The world sucks – but only sometimes. Sometimes it is all pony rides and party hats; lately not enough. Like everything, it is a balance – forever wobbling between good, bad, and indifferent.
I’ve written about balance before, as it pertains to travel, and the need to stay positive as you wait in the clusterfucked TSA line, while you get stranded on the tarmac for several hours, or during an argument in three languages (two of which you don’t speak) after getting mugged. Positivity (is that really a word?) is a big deal to me. It makes a grey day better and a failure easier to take. It can help put world events into perspective, although that’s getting harder to do. To set you up for the weekend, I am going to give you something to help cultivate your positivity. I know it is challenging in the wake of Charleston, Barcelona, Manchester, London, Turkey, etc. but let’s soldier on, shall we?
Before I get to this little bit o’ wisdom, I have to go on record and state that I have not always been a sunshine-y person. Being positive and finding the good in things are muscles I’ve developed over years of ‘taking it on the chin’. I had the good fortune to grow up privileged with opportunity and love, but I still had a chip on my shoulder. After a few epiphanal moments in my life, and some resonating wisdom of my grandmother (I miss her every day), I can honestly say that I am happy all the time and positive about 94% of the time. This is a great place to be and I highly recommend it. That is not to say I don’t have days where everyone annoys the hell out me or where I don’t wonder why I even bother putting on eyeliner. It just means that in the grand scheme of things, my life is better when I keep it on the sunny side.
Please note that happiness does NOT come from a large bank account or swanky digs. It can’t be found on a Facebook page or in a reality show. Happiness and positive thinking come from exercising the choice to find the good in a shitty situation. From working your ass off in pursuit of your goals and ignoring the naysayers. From finding your tribe (even if that tribe is you and 1 cat). From believing in yourself and cultivating your personality through travel, self-education, volunteerism, or just reading a good book. You can be happy, you can be positive, and you can overcome the bastards that weigh you down. I promise.
Okay, here is the little nugget of awesomeness. Ready?
“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle and the life of that candle will not be shortened.”
Beautiful, isn’t it? A simple and profound statement. Go out into the world this weekend, my beauties, and be that candle for as many people as you can find. We need more happiness and, for fuck’s sake, we need more light.
Until next week, safe travels!